I’m a mother, nutritional therapist and author who has been sharing recipes to help you get the glow back for the last 8 years...
I can’t quite believe I am writing this article, calling myself a mum still sounds a bit strange to me.
Motherhood has been a crazy adventure so far with tears, overwhelm, long nights and so much love. I don’t think anything can really prepare you for it, it’s been the most amazing journey so far.
I’ve learnt a few things that I wanted to share with you:
I spent a lot of time before Shay was born trying to imagine life with him. What sort of mum I’d be. I saw myself as an earth mum breast feeding, playing only with wooden toys and having an all natural birth. This didn’t quite work out I ended up having an epidural (which turned out to be great for me) and have already started using a dummy (which I swore I wouldn’t) to soothe him when his tummy is sore. I am defiantly not the mum I thought I was but I am learning to be ok with that, each baby is different and you just have to work with that. There is no right or wrong way of doing things if you are giving your child love you are being a great mum.
The first weeks for me were a whirlwind and if I managed to have a shower then that was a great day. Kieran went away for 2 days early on and I defiantly didn’t shower, I just didn’t have time, I ate as shay breast fed and at the time I had to hold him while he slept so showers were pretty hard to have. Know this time passes and now he happily plays on his play mat and goes down in his cot allowing me to have a proper shower (thank goodness).
It’s ok to need help either your partner taking him/her for a walk without you, or your family watching him/her for a nap while you sleep. I kept saying no to help at the beginning feeling like I needed to do it all, and I was the only one he could really rely on. This wasn’t true he was happy with most people and you do need moments away from your little one.
Newborns love cuddles so enjoy this cuddly time, sit on the couch rest don’t worry about creating bad habits at the early stage just enjoy this special time together.
Whatever awful episode you are going through you are not alone, another mother is going through it too. It’s not all smiles and cuddles sadly, babies are hard work but don’t compare yourself to others people often don’t reveal how tough it is. You are not alone, reach out for support from friends and enjoy the highs as they only feel like highs with the lows.