Why every woman needs a tribe and how to find yours
I really believe that surrounding ourselves with the right people can contribute to a happy and wholesome life. Friends and family need to be there for us in the same way that we need to be there for them – to support one another through the good times and the bad times. I’m also a massive believer in supporting one another woman to woman – we should build each other up not tear each other down – which is easy to forget in a world where we constantly compare ourselves to eachother on social media. So, Selina Barker from Project Love has kindly written a guest post today with 5 reasons every woman needs a tribe and how to find yours!
1. Sisterhood is a powerful force
Our tribal sisters and hunter-gatherer ancestors did not enjoy the kind of freedom and independence we, as modern women, do today. Their survival depended on a strong bond with the women around them. They shared caring for babies, gathering and cooking food, they helped one another through child-birth, mourned together through death and cared for one another. They were a constant source of strength, support and comfort to one another on a daily basis.
However, just because we no longer need that strong sisterhood to survive in life, we do need it, it turns out, to thrive in life.
Study after study is starting to reveal that when women create strong bonds with other women it has a huge impact on their health and happiness and at Project Love we have found that when women come together to share and support one another, it has a profound and often life-changing effect on them.
2. Close friends boost your immunity
It turns out that having strong female friendships is key to our health. A recent Harvard study revealed that for women in particular, it’s not just what we put into our bodies that is key to our health and happiness, but who we put around us. It was found that women who have close female friendships are staying happier and healthier as they age. Meanwhile a 2006 breast cancer study found that women with breast cancer that had a strong, supportive circle of friends were 4 times more likely to make a full recovery than those who didn’t and study after study has found that strong and nourishing friendships reduce our risk of disease by lowering blood pressure, heart rate, and cholesterol. Our female friendships literally have the power to help heal us.
Imagine for a moment what it would be like to have a tribe of women behind you, fully supporting and believing in you. What would that kind of support give you the courage to do? What would life feel like to be surrounded by women who loved you and had your back? Well that is what ‘Sister Circles’ are all about. Women coming together to support one another and empower one another to create a life they love and enjoy the life they are living.
4. Sister circles create the space for us to stop. Let go. And breathe.
In today’s fast-paced world where women on average get 36 minutes of down-time a day (or 17 minutes if you’re a mother), sister circles offer women a chance to stop for a moment as life whizzes by. To take a step back and breeeeeathe. It’s a chance to check in with yourself and ask ‘How am I doing…really?’ and have other women bare witness to your answer. It’s a chance for you to do what women generally aren’t very good at doing: listening in to your needs and your dreams and making sure that you are doing what you can to have those needs met and bring those dreams to life.
5. As women our souls crave the connection and belonging that comes from sisterhood
When we connect deeply with other women, we connect deeply with ourselves. Opening ourselves up and sharing the things that are close to our hearts creates a space of shared vulnerability that leads to deep connection – the thing that we all, as human beings, crave more than anything.
And having the experience of being heard and supported by other women is a deep rooted need that all women have. It unlocks our power and potential as individuals and collectively. When you experience the undivided love, support and attention of a group of women who are fully present to you in that moment, you are reminded not only of who you truly are but of what we are capable of as women when we stand together and support one another.
As Nisha Moodley, queen of the Sisterhood movement says, “The world will be set free by women who are free. Sisterhood is the key”.
So grab your closest girlfriends (two is enough to start with) and book in a date to hold your first sister circle and just see what it does for you!
Selina is a life design coach and over the past 10 years has made it her mission to figure out what women need to create lives and relationships they love. Find out more about Project Love have to offer and download their ‘Guide to starting a sister circle’ if you want to start a sister circle!
Image credit: Rebecca Westcott