How to stay calm and relaxed

How to stay calm and relaxed


If you know me, you know I’m quite a happy chappy. However, I can get myself in an inner panic. The truth is…I’m a workaholic. I work all the time, often 7 days a week.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love it! However, I don’t really have anyone to answer to but myself. I am always striving to do more.

This can often leave me stressed and not sleeping well. I stare at the computer or my phone all day long.

I have found, however, a few ways of reducing stress and feeling calm and I wanted to share them with you, in case you ever feel this way too.

1. Take transport breaks

Whether you get cabs, the bus, tubes or trains, stick your earphones in and listen to some meditative or classical music. It’s very calming and allows your body to relax. Close your eyes and just listen. It can be hard not to read emails or check how your instagram post is doing, but it’s good brain training. We are so used to multiple stimulation.

2. Get your head below your heart

When I’m feeling overwhelmed I get my head below my heart. It might be a downward dog or (when in public) lowering my head below my knees seated. This gives you a change of perspective, literally, turning your world upside down. It is very calming and centering. Come up slowly though!

P.S. If you get embarrassed, you can do it on the toilet seat.

3. Meditate

Meditation is a hard one. I openly admit how hard I find it to sit still, but I try to take a few minutes each day to belly breathe. Sometimes in the morning and always at night, I’ll just close my eyes and feel my belly rise and fall. I’ll feel my body rather than listening to my monkey mind. There are tons of awesome apps and music you can listen to.

4. Chew your food

Whenever I’m feeling stressed my stomach plays up. It can be awful. It happens when I’m feeling overwhelmed. I used to run for something sugary and comforting, however that always made it worse. Now I wait and try to avoid eating when my stomach is doing flips. When I do, I sit, relax and chew my food. Consuming lots of food when you are stressed is like pouring gasoline on a fire. Just wait a little and get yourself in a restful state.

With all of these things, be mindful not to beat yourself up if you don’t manage to do them. There are so many ways you can get healthy and you can pick and choose what works best for you. If it doesn’t, don’t do it. Never feel bad that you don’t do everything. Gosh, if I did everything that made me healthy, I wouldn’t have any time in the day to play.

How do you relax? I’d love to hear from you, so please leave a comment below.


  • Rose

    I go the gym 6 days a week it keeps me calm and collective :)

  • Pippa Kent

    Fab ideas. I have tried the calming music on the bus and it really does help. i do love the idea of just popping into a downward dog in the office though – everyone would think I am madder than normal :-)

  • Jenna Lee

    I love this, thank you! My biggest struggle at the moment is motivation. Also, I wonder how other people find being so busy with work stuff when you live with your partner. He hates me being on my laptop all the time and so I often give in and relax with him when I feel like I should be getting things done. Would love other peoples thoughts / views / advice on this.

    • hilary symmans

      Nice to know someone else feels like this! I end up feeling guilty either because I haven’t got my work stuff done or because I feel I should have spent more time with my partner. I guess it’s about finding the balance, but it’s not easy.

  • Lisa McCaghy

    I also have terrible stomach problems when stressed. I find Pilates amazing. It’s the only thing that keeps me totally focused for an hour and takes my mind off my worries

  • Chloe Brotheridge

    Great post Madeleine – I’m sure tonnes of us can realate to this. Thanks for raising awareness to this.

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