How to Find Balance

How to Find Balance

Balance is a word thrown around a lot but I wanted to share to you what balance means to me. I recently got back from an event where a young boy asked me how often had I eaten Ben and Jerry’s ice cream. In fact I often get asked questions like this, “do you drink?” or “do you ever eat a burger?”..and the answer is yes. It’s doesn’t happen daily but I’m not one to say no to a gin and tonic and hazelnut gelato.

 

I’ve gone through a journey with wellness and balance. When I first got into this world I went totally extreme, from binge drinking every night to not a drop. From supermarket deodorant to none, from takeaways to cold press juices. I wanted to do it all and do it well. However, over time I’ve realised that being perfectly healthy wasn’t right for me.

 

I love natural beauty and really believe in it but I don’t want to give up my Charlotte Tilbury mascara. I know it’s not natural but it actually stays on and works for me (my eyes are super oily). I believe in doing things that nourish your life, that might not always be the perfect way of doing things but they are right for you.

 

There is a lot out there at the moment about “clean” or “healthy eating” causing eating disorders. I hope from the bottom of my heart you don’t feel this way. I always talk in positives about food, it is a pleasure and something to be enjoyed. I aim to inspire and to make healthy eating more delicious, simple and easy to create.

 

I have found balance over the years by really switching off, I spend my weekends at the pub and eating out. People might ask why I don’t share this, and it’s not that I’m embarrassed it’s just that I need separation between work and life. So my balancing act is finding things that take me away from this.  

 

Balance is a hard thing to do and it’s difficult to have it all, I don’t know anyone one who does. I think we find our balance through trial and tribulation and finding the sweet spot.

 

Some things that have helped me over the years to switch off are:

 

  1. Turn your phone off – switch off from the world, take one day a week to switch off (it’s liberating)
  2. Say No – learn to say no to things, don’t pile more on your plate
  3. Schedule more family time – consciously make the effort to spend more time with your family and friends
  4. Walk it off – I love nothing more that a long walk, it clears my head and make me feel calmer and more centred

Balance comes from doing a range of things, from doing the things that you need to do and doing some things just because they’re naughty

 

8 comments

  • Georgia Mai Bradley

    Hi Madeleine, my names Georgia and I absolutely adore your blog :) the amount of happiness that is exerted from your writing is addictive :) when I read your blogs they make me feel happy haha :) thank you for all you write about, I hope you appreciate how your knowledge and how you inform the public of it really helps and inspires so many of us :) never change!
    I was just contacting you the enquire if you ever had any fear foods and if theres any techniques you know of on how to conquer them? I am recovering from Orthorexia (it is not a widely known eating disorder yet it is getting more and more publicity recently) and one of the things I have ended up doing is fearing foods as I have tried to eat healthy yet gone to the extreme, cut out certain foods from my diet and now I fear them. I am a very strong individual and this angers me as I have strong will power and I do not want this fear but I feel it is more of a psychological thing that needs to be dealt with and this can’t just be done over night, I know that. If you have any tips and ideas on how you think I can help myself please let me know :) I’ve asked you for your advice as I have read a lot of blogs online but I respect and appreciate any advice you give me as I trust your word :) have a good day Madeleine xxx

  • Lucy Birchall

    I was talking to my Mum last night about my skin – both she and I have suffered with acne and horrible cystic acne on our chins, not fun – and I said how I KNOW what works best for my skin (lots of water, no alcohol, no sugar in any form and all the vegetables and avocado in the world). However, I can’t actually live my life like that. In order to stay sane I NEED to be able to order that amazing chocolate and salted caramel dessert, and I need to be able to have a glass of wine or G&T sometimes! It’s just knowing your own limits and knowing what works best for you.

    She’s So Lucy // Health, Wellness & Beauty

    • http://www.madeleineshaw.com/ Madeleine Shaw

      love it! you have such an amazing outlook on balance xx

  • http://www.ohbeans.co.uk Vicky Noble – Oh Beans

    Hi Madeleine! Really good post and such an important message to spread. It’s so hard to achieve balance and we’re all swinging between all or nothing and moderation. I personally think it’s also about to learning to be kind to ourselves as well, to allow ourselves a little bit of indulgence and to not then be disheartened the next day. I do think it would be nice if we could share this side of things more on platforms such as instagram as I think it’s so easy to think that people eat these ‘clean’ bowls of food all day, every day – when in reality, it’s not the case.

    Thanks again!
    Vicky

    ohbeans.co.uk

    • http://www.madeleineshaw.com/ Madeleine Shaw

      Thank you for your kind words :) xx

  • Aaishah

    Such an important message!I feel like nowadays the way we are surrounded with social media and so much information, some true and some not, its easy to feel kind’ve bombarded and feel as though we HAVE to eat fully clean and have this perfect Instagram life. So this is a nice reminder that sometimes we need to just switch off, take a step back, and do realise its okay to do things in way that works for us rather than just following the latest trends :)

  • http://www.chardonnayandsamphire.com/ Chardonnay & Samphire

    Completely agree – great post! Equally, clean/healthy eating may be encouraging/can provide a framework for those who already have an eating disorder – you don’t see many bloggers restricting meal size!

    • http://www.madeleineshaw.com/ Madeleine Shaw

      Thank you for watching xx

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